7 Things NEVER to Say to LGBT Co-Workers

November 25, 2008

 

Greetings, in today’s post, I introduce another article written by Daryl Hannah that identifies 7 things you should never say to gay, lesbian, bisexual or transgendered (GLBT) co-workers who have “come out of the closet”.  Of particular interest are the comments by a PricewaterhouseCoopers executive who has been “out” for 10 years and shares some of her experiences and insights:

1.  “I suspected you were gay.”

2.  “I’m sorry.”

3.  “Why did you tell me that?”

4.  “Which bathroom do you use?”

5.  “We are not close enough for you to share that information with me.”

6.  Referring to coworkers as “she-male.”

7.  “What do you like to do in bed?”

Of course, you can visit www.diversityinc.com/thingsnottosay to review the full article and get a thorough description of each of the 7 statements.

NEXT POST: December 3, 2008

Have a Wonderful Thanksgiving Holiday!


8 Things NEVER to Say to Women Executives

November 21, 2008

 

In today’s post, I am highlighting an article by Zayda Rivera that describes 8 things you should never say to women executives (or women at any organizational level for that matter).  In addition to pointing out several inappropriate and problematic behaviors when it comes to interacting with women, particularly women in management positions, this article really demonstrates how many of these behaviors and statements are genuinely innocent and are not intended to harm anyone, but can create many problems nonetheless:

1.  Any kind of sexual comment.

2.  “You don’t really want that promotion. You’ll never see your kids.”

3.  “You’ll get the job because you’re a woman” or “You must be the token woman”

4.  “What’s the matter, is it that time of the month?”

5.  “You’re very attractive [or pretty, or beautiful, etc.]”

6.  “You look great for your age” or “Do you use Botox?”

7.  “You do that so well … for a girl.”

8.  “When are you due?”

Another nice feature of this article is that it offer several audio clips to further demonstrate and describe the problematic nature of these statements.  You can review the full article at www.diversityinc.com/thingsnottosay. 

NEXT POST – November 25, 2008


10 Things NEVER to Say to Latino Executives

November 18, 2008

 

In today’s post, I highlight another article by Yogi Cole that describes 10 things you should never say to Latino executives (although once you read the article, you will probably realize these are things you should never say to anyone of Latin descent regardless of their position in the organizational hierarchy).  What I find particularly interesting about this article is that even in our “more enlightened” times, people still make highly inappropriate comments in the workplace:

1.  “Don’t worry, you’ll get the promotion, you’re Latina.”

2.  “When did you arrive in this country?”

3.  “Hola! Habla Ingles?”

4.  “Do you live with your parents?”

5.  “You’re not like them.”

6.  “Can you show me your knife?”

7.  “Why don’t all you Latinos stop doing that?”

8.  “You’re not white.”

9.  Butchering a Latino’s last name.

10.  “Do you speak Spanish?”

Visit www.diversityinc.com/thingsnottosay to read the full article.

NEXT POST – November 21, 2008


8 Things NEVER to Say to a Mixed-Race Colleague

November 13, 2008

 

In my last post, I introduced an article written by Yoji Cole that describes “9 Things NEVER to Say to White Colleagues”.  Here is another article by Yogi from the series at www.diversityinc.com.  This article describes 8 things you should never say to a mixed-race colleague:

1.  “What are you?”

2.  “What is your nationality?” or “You look foreign”

3.  “You’re all beautiful” or “You make beautiful babies”

4.  “Are you X or Y?” or “Which side are you more on?”

5.  “How in the world did your parents meet?”

6.  “You’re the future” or “You have the best of both worlds”

7.  “You don’t look …” or “You’re not …” or “You sound white”

8.  “Aren’t we all mixed anyway?”

Remember to visit www.diversityinc.com/thingsnottosay to read the full article.

NEXT POST – November 18, 2008


9 Things NEVER to Say to White Colleagues

November 10, 2008

 

Greetings, in today’s post I describe another article from the series at www.diversityinc.com describing ‘things NEVER to say’.  Today’s article is written by Yoji Cole and describes 9 things you should never say to your white colleagues.  I find this article particularly interesting and insightful because it addresses some of the destructive stereotypes people of color often hold regarding Caucasians:

1.  “You’re a carpet-bagger” or “Why is a white guy doing this?”

2.  “You’re not diverse”

3.  “There’s no way you as a white person can understand”

4.  White men are automatically “in the corporate in-crowd”

5.  “You’re just a typical white person”

6.  “You KNOW you’re being racist”

7.  “You talk about us when we’re not around”

8.  “You’ve got all the money”

9.  “I don’t like white people” or “I don’t get white people”

I strongly urge you to visit www.diversityinc.com/thingsnottosay to get a description of each of these statements in Yoji Cole’s full article.  I think you will find it quite interesting.  In my next post, I will highlight another Yoji Cole article.  This one focuses on communicating with people who have a mixed cultural background.

NEXT POST – November 13, 2008

8 Things NEVER to Say to a Mixed-Race Colleague


10 Things NEVER to Say to a Black Coworker

November 4, 2008

 

Greetings – today I am highlighting another article from the series at www.diversityinc.com describing ‘things NEVER to say’.  Today’s article is written by Eric Hinton and describes 10 things you should never say to a black coworker:

1.  “You’re so articulate”

2.  “Is that your real hair?”

3.  “You people”

4.  “Do you eat a lot of ______________?”

5.  “Why are you so angry?”

6.  “Why are you acting white?”

7.  “You don’t sound black over the phone”

8.  “I don’t think of you as black”

9.  “You graduated from where?”

10.  The N-word

Visit www.diversityinc.com/thingsnottosay to get a description of each of these statements from Eric Hinton’s full article.

Next Post – November 10, 2008

9 Things NEVER to Say to White Colleagues